I recently had a fellow writer ask me to do an entry about negative reviews and how I handle them. At the time I was like, ehhh, I don’t want to talk about that this week, but I’ll put it on the list. I can’t remember exactly why I didn’t want to talk about it, but probably I had just received a negative review. This week I feel ready! So let’s dive in!
Read MoreIn case the term is new to you, body doubling refers to being on a call (usually a video call) with someone else in a different location where both of you are doing a task. I’ve tried body doubling with other writers, and it works! I’ll break down what I’ve found most effective.
Read MoreI am writing the advice I would have liked to give my past self. Unfortunately, it’s incredibly nuanced because this is a barometer I do believe you have to develop through experience. My younger self would have really enjoyed a roadmap though. She would have liked bullet points and a direction. So I will try to give you a rough one.
Read MoreThere is a reason that we dive for our old favorites when we’re stressed or depressed.
Read MoreWriters conferences can be fantastic fun and wonderful learning experiences. They can also be stressful and draining. Here are my five favorite tips for surviving conference season. Enjoy!
Read MoreIt’s a common misconception that introverts are shrinking violets who cannot bear a conversation with strangers and extroverts are loud mouths who must be the center of attention. Obviously this isn’t the case or no one would be able to handle being around anyone. We all know we’re on a spectrum, but it has less to do with how you interact with people and more to do with how you recharge afterward.
Read MoreWe all go through those stretches of time where life seems to have decided to toss challenges at us faster than we can gracefully deal with them. The temptation to just lay down in the middle of the dodgeball court and take the hits until they stop coming is real, but that wouldn’t be productive.
Read MoreWhen should you force yourself to write when you’re not feeling like it and when are you doing more harm than good?
Read MoreAs a society, I think we’re getting better at openly discussing these things unapologetically, but I think it’s still important, maybe even more important, to shine a light on these personal experiences as we move through them. I’m in my mid-forties, which is almost like a second puberty. Just when I had my body figured out, it’s changing on me again.
Read MoreI was recently asked who motivates me when I am having a tough time putting one foot in front of the other, or have an overwhelming about of choices on my to do list. The short answer, is that I think it’s largely still me. But I’ll elaborate.
Read MoreI think it’s important to just keep showing up. Even though the outcome of showing up cannot be controlled. The one thing I can continue to do is my best. Even on the days when my best feels like a big fat failure, it’s what I can give. So I’ll keep on giving it. And I hope you will too.
Read MoreDo you slow down in the ‘between times’ at the end of the year? I usually don’t, but I wonder if perhaps we’re supposed to.
Read MoreThere are advantages and disadvantages to both, but does one have a distinct leg up overall? And does it really matter if at the end, you get your work done?
Read MoreThis year a writing group that I’m a part of decided to enter NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) as a group. It couldn’t have happened at a worse time for me.
Read MoreNo matter how organized or on top of things one is, there will come a day, a week, maybe even a month, where you feel like your scrambling and barely keeping your head above water. Often when we’re overwhelmed, we freeze or procrastinate (or choose your own less-than-desirable panic reaction) and forget the easiest way out: start small.
Read MoreWe all feel ‘like idiots’ when we feel we’ve been taken in in some way, but there is a special kind of shame that women feel when they thought they’d made a friend and ‘once again’ he was only interested in objectification and sex.
Read MoreIn positive psychology, a flow state, also known colloquially as being in the zone, is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by the complete absorption in what one does, and a resulting transformation in one's sense of time. - From Wikipedia
Read MoreWhat do we do with dreams and nightmares? Are they anything beyond just a mashup of pictures and emotions?
Read MoreI searched all over the internet for information on this injury. Yes, I wanted answers and medically backed references that what I was doing in therapy was correct. But I also wanted to know that it was going to work. I wanted hope. I joined Facebook groups, I watched TikTok videos, I was insane and obsessed, y’all. But I’m putting this out there because I know someone else is probably doing the same right now and I’ll put this out there in case it helps. A lot of getting past this injury is mental.
Read MoreLearning to take time in an instant gratification world.
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