In case the term is new to you, body doubling refers to being on a call (usually a video call) with someone else in a different location where both of you are doing a task. I’ve tried body doubling with other writers, and it works! I’ll break down what I’ve found most effective.
Read MoreI am writing the advice I would have liked to give my past self. Unfortunately, it’s incredibly nuanced because this is a barometer I do believe you have to develop through experience. My younger self would have really enjoyed a roadmap though. She would have liked bullet points and a direction. So I will try to give you a rough one.
Read MoreThere is a reason that we dive for our old favorites when we’re stressed or depressed.
Read MoreWe all go through those stretches of time where life seems to have decided to toss challenges at us faster than we can gracefully deal with them. The temptation to just lay down in the middle of the dodgeball court and take the hits until they stop coming is real, but that wouldn’t be productive.
Read MoreAs a society, I think we’re getting better at openly discussing these things unapologetically, but I think it’s still important, maybe even more important, to shine a light on these personal experiences as we move through them. I’m in my mid-forties, which is almost like a second puberty. Just when I had my body figured out, it’s changing on me again.
Read MoreI was recently asked who motivates me when I am having a tough time putting one foot in front of the other, or have an overwhelming about of choices on my to do list. The short answer, is that I think it’s largely still me. But I’ll elaborate.
Read MoreI think it’s important to just keep showing up. Even though the outcome of showing up cannot be controlled. The one thing I can continue to do is my best. Even on the days when my best feels like a big fat failure, it’s what I can give. So I’ll keep on giving it. And I hope you will too.
Read MoreDo you slow down in the ‘between times’ at the end of the year? I usually don’t, but I wonder if perhaps we’re supposed to.
Read MoreThere are advantages and disadvantages to both, but does one have a distinct leg up overall? And does it really matter if at the end, you get your work done?
Read MoreThis year a writing group that I’m a part of decided to enter NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) as a group. It couldn’t have happened at a worse time for me.
Read MoreNo matter how organized or on top of things one is, there will come a day, a week, maybe even a month, where you feel like your scrambling and barely keeping your head above water. Often when we’re overwhelmed, we freeze or procrastinate (or choose your own less-than-desirable panic reaction) and forget the easiest way out: start small.
Read MoreIn positive psychology, a flow state, also known colloquially as being in the zone, is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by the complete absorption in what one does, and a resulting transformation in one's sense of time. - From Wikipedia
Read MoreWhen you’re rising in a new skill, I think the toughest place to be is often that intermediate area. That middle-of-the-climb spot where you’re no longer a novice, but not yet great. I feel that this spot is the most frustrating and yet often the spot where we give ourselves the least amount of grace.
Read MoreFind people in your life who will lift you up, no matter how high or low you already are. Don’t be afraid to share your joys and sorrows.
Read MoreWe all have bad days. I have a couple of tips for getting through a bad day where you have to show up anyway.
Read MoreWhat do you do when you’re more afraid of the feelings you might have than the actual thing that might cause them?
Read MoreIs there a perfect place to write? I think there is. And I think it’s different for everyone.
Read MoreEmotional muscles need exercise just like physical ones. Today I’m discussing the skillset that is involved in accepting a compliment.
Read MoreBeing able to give and receive feedback well is a skill that is worth developing. Not only will it help you grow your craft (whatever that may be) but you’ll be able to network and help others even more effectively.
Read MoreAre you aware of your emotional ‘tells’? Took me a while, but I find it’s helpful information.
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