Dean and I have both now had to quarantine from the other’s Covid attack in an 800 square foot house. Here’s what it looks like from both sides.
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I think it’s important to just keep showing up. Even though the outcome of showing up cannot be controlled. The one thing I can continue to do is my best. Even on the days when my best feels like a big fat failure, it’s what I can give. So I’ll keep on giving it. And I hope you will too.
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2023 has started out a bit rocky. My entire family fell really ill. While I was laid out, Dean lost his job.
Suffice it to say that the first week of January wasn’t our favorite. But I’m not looking at this as a bad omen. This is a restart.
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Recently I had a friend ask me this question. If I knew I would never get published, would I still write?
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Do you slow down in the ‘between times’ at the end of the year? I usually don’t, but I wonder if perhaps we’re supposed to.
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I love that we, as humans, regardless of what ritual we may or may not be observing, collectively throw up lights against the darkest time of the year.
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Do you ever wonder if your writer friends actually write you into their stories? What about your writer enemies? :-)
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There are advantages and disadvantages to both, but does one have a distinct leg up overall? And does it really matter if at the end, you get your work done?
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At the beginning of November, I posted an entry detailing my decision to participate in my first NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month), a writing ‘contest’ held every November. It’s free and the goal is to get to 50,000 words by the end of the month. Now that it’s over, here are my takeaways.
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New friends are fantastic and fun, and there’s the exciting getting-to-know-you period where you uncover all the delightful facets of this person that you’re intrigued by little by little, hoping that this friendship has the potential to become lasting. But there’s something about old friends. Where you just fall in. They know all your weird little peccadilloes and don’t mind them. Some of them might even be part of what makes them love you. Friends you can say ‘I love you’ to without worrying if it’s weird or creepy.
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Have you ever wondered why you hate things that really don’t hurt you?
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Asking for help can be intimidating. There are three things I believe to be true:
The first ‘yes’ generates confidence and makes it easier to go after the next one.
People, as a rule, want to help where they can.
When you get those yeses, reciprocate. There’s always something you can give back.
This year a writing group that I’m a part of decided to enter NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) as a group. It couldn’t have happened at a worse time for me.
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No matter how organized or on top of things one is, there will come a day, a week, maybe even a month, where you feel like your scrambling and barely keeping your head above water. Often when we’re overwhelmed, we freeze or procrastinate (or choose your own less-than-desirable panic reaction) and forget the easiest way out: start small.
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We all feel ‘like idiots’ when we feel we’ve been taken in in some way, but there is a special kind of shame that women feel when they thought they’d made a friend and ‘once again’ he was only interested in objectification and sex.
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In positive psychology, a flow state, also known colloquially as being in the zone, is the mental state in which a person performing some activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by the complete absorption in what one does, and a resulting transformation in one's sense of time. - From Wikipedia
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Maybe some people are naturally generous. Or maybe they’ve experienced a recent dose of generosity themselves and feel like passing it on.
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What do we do with dreams and nightmares? Are they anything beyond just a mashup of pictures and emotions?
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I searched all over the internet for information on this injury. Yes, I wanted answers and medically backed references that what I was doing in therapy was correct. But I also wanted to know that it was going to work. I wanted hope. I joined Facebook groups, I watched TikTok videos, I was insane and obsessed, y’all. But I’m putting this out there because I know someone else is probably doing the same right now and I’ll put this out there in case it helps. A lot of getting past this injury is mental.
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As a society, we tend to equate money with success and happiness to a disproportionate degree, but it’s so ingrained that most of us aren’t aware of it. I could reference countless articles that state after a certain amount of income (approximately $75,000) more money doesn’t actually increase your happiness. The advice it to spend on experiences or things that save you time everyday. We've been trying it out!
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